Morning Thoughts 💭

I would like to put in a disclaimer. What I will be sharing are my personal thoughts and understanding of life so far. Coupled with things I have learnt and unlearnt, not in anyways telling anyone what to do.

1. Be kind. Don’t be selective with who you are kind to. Be kind to everyone. Kindness comes in many forms, check on Friends, buying gifts, sharing information, showing an helping hand, being present to listen to someone in pain, compassion. With all that show that Kindness to yourself as well, always🤍🤍.

2. Take time for yourself, take care of your mental and emotional health. If you are an empath like myself, you want to be there for everyone and subsequently without knowing absorb their pain or hurt and the need to want to fix the situation. This can be very draining, both physically and mentally. Be there where you can but know when to step back and detox from all the heaviness of peoples struggles. Same applies with your personal struggles, find healthy ways to cope. You cannot pour from an empty cup and so from time to time, take time to refill 🤍.

3. Learn to maintain your boundaries. I see people post about boundaries but mainly speak about romantic relationships. This applies to friends and family as well. If you are not ok with something, say it and address it. Yes, I know it’s easier said than done😩🥴. I promise you just try and you will see how the respect is maintained. You are afraid of being called “difficult”? while you are worried about what you are being called the disrespect will continue and all you will feel is hurt and eventually resentment. Anyone who doesn’t respect your boundaries should not be on your life. I said what I said!

4. Love, oh yeah Love and fall in Love as many times as you want till you get is right with the right person for you🥰….but most importantly know when to stop. Yes, it end sometimes and it hurts but that is much better that staying in hurtful situations. We can both be good people but doesn’t mean you must end up together. By all mean “work” on it if need be communicate expectations and what you want. Once these are not being served anymore, please stop to think and re-evaluate. Love does not hurt, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 ❤️❤️

5. Finance, we aren’t all money savvy. I personally have been lucky to have friends who are and are willing to share tips on how to save better and growth wealth.….still not there but learning. For those of you that have “black tax” the general black child having to take huge responsibility at home as soon as you start working. It’s ok to help but please remember this is your Prime, you need to do all the saving and investing now for your own future as well. Set a goal yearly and have someone to hold you accountable to it. 2022, ladies and gents let’s us do better🤸🏾‍♀️. Don’t be stingy with information Lona! Share tips 😩😩 Please.

But ultimately, Live! Live! Live! Live your life and enjoy every moment.

In this life eh, wahala no dey finish (problems never end).

Have a wonderful day.

With Love,

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