Long distance Relationships.
- Oyetola Babarinde
- Jan 19, 2022
- 2 min read
Good evening š¤, I hope you are all well. I am sure some of know by now, if I think about it I share it š. Long distance relationship!
Being my random selfš„“š, I saw a contact of mine share a beautiful birthday message. It was her husbandās birthday
I met her at my previous place of work during orientation month. Although we had been friends on social media but we never met in person. I remember she once mentioned her husband being outside South Africa and she would eventually relocate to be with him.
After seeing her post, I got a mini moment of self reflection with regards to my personal experiences when it comes to long distance relationships.
I have had 3 long distance relationship that lasted for approximately 8months there about. One would think after it not working out two previous times I would stop, š no I have coconut headš.
I honestly began to wonder if there was anything I could have done better. So, I proceeded to ask this lady how long she had been in long term relationship with her now husband. We has a brief chat and she permitted me to share.
What I took from this chat and my past experience?
Goals for the relationship needs to be aligned, which is ultimately to be together.
Someone will have to make a move to meet the other. Are you ready for that? is it what you can do?
Communication and Comprehension. This is what I learnt from my experience. You can share your view all you want but if the other person is not ready to understand your point, all you will do is repeat the same concerns and not feel heard.
These kinds of relationships work provided the couple are on the same wavelength in terms of future plans. Kids or not, religious concerns, cultural concerns, sexual compatibility! what you will and wonāt do, finance.
It is ok if things do not work out. You can try again or Maybe date someone closer to you this time lol.
Relationship are beautiful and I absolutely believe in companionship. They happen in various forms and ways. Long distance relationships I have witnessed worked which may have been the reason why I attempted them. Some relationships start in close proximity and then become Long distance and still survive. The work and commitment that goes into this can not be underestimatedš«.
I sincerely wish those in long distance relationships the best because I know it is not an easy journey.
Would you try a long distance relationship, Are you in a long distance relationship, Were you in one and why didnāt it work out?
Comment below letās have a chatš¤. Enjoy the rest of your evening.
With Love,
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Iāve been in a long distance relationship and it worked out pretty well. We were in the same country, just different provinces and weād see each other once a month. Itās true what she said, when you guys want the same thing for the relationship and your future. You make it work.
Love this perspective š, I always thought they were doomed but itās refreshing to hear something different
Currently in one and it's doable, with the right communication and equal effort ā¤ļøtalking to your partner when you start feeling some type of way helps both of you bring back the spark because just like a normal relationship, we get comfortable.. Forgetting that this situation needs a bit more work than a normal relationship.
I've beeeeeeeen on long distance relationships lol not once or twice, 3 times babes..... Let's have a moment of silence for my stupidity šššš. They all did not work because of some points mentioned above. Honestly I am still open to one because I believe with the right partner it's doable