Dear Mothers 🌸_Happy Mother’s Day.

Hello everyone! 🥳🥳 It has been a really long break and coming back seemed even harder 🥺 but it’s mother’s day and I just could not miss putting out a post.

I am a product of an amazing mom (I surely hope I am representing well 💀) and also I am surrounded by really cool moms too🤩.

When the word Mom comes to mind, what do you think? What would be your definition be?

For me, a mom is “a woman who gives birth or who has the responsibility of physical and emotional care for a child or children”

I love this definition because it does not restrict the title to those who physically conceived and birth a baby.

I realised with time that when this day comes we rejoice at the thought of the many “sacrifices” they have made. “My mom had 6 jobs, my mom would not eat just too feed us” e.t.c. Which almost seems like for you to qualify as a great mom you must have had to suffer or put yourself at risk in one way or the other. Yes, sacrifices are made by mothers but does it have to be at their own expense always to make them great mom? Let us unlearn that.

The more I spend time with moms the more I appreciate their sacrifices and the more I learn about journey of motherhood. Some have warned me not to attempt being a mom 😂🤣 while some have told me to either wait till I feel ready or how much of a blessing motherhood is or can be.

Talking to moms helps you understand them and most importantly how they will like to be assisted. Yes majority of my friends are mom🤩🥰, I learn from them. I realised over time that the first thing to do is to ask what they would like help with. You might think it is obvious what they need but honestly what you think they need might not be what they want in that moment.

Another thing I learnt from the mothers around me is they do not need unsolicited advice. If they do not ask please don’t give them any advice on how to parent. And even when they ask and you have given your advice they have a right to decline the implementation of that advice. Parenting styles are different for everyone.

Complimenting them goes a long way. A simple “hey mama you are doing great” really goes a long way. I realise a lot of them have a lot of pressure put on them by society especially with the ridiculous expectations😒, that they fail to see the enormous amount of work they put in daily into raising their child/children. Compliment them and also give them money 😂. I have a few friends that money and time away from mothering really makes them happy.

I asked a few moms what their advice to future moms would be and what kind of help they would like (See below screenshot), Dr Mokgadi for me 😂😂🤣.

I really do not know how mothers do it because I am by myself and I can barely cope with taking care of myself. I babysit atimes for my friends and oh lord, on several occasions I almost lost my mind 😂. This is work you don’t get rewarded for and I honestly appreciate mothers a lot.

To all the moms out there, you are loved, you are cherished, you are respected, you are appreciated, you are deserving of all great things you want, you are doing an absolutely amazing job raising that child/children. The efforts you put in to raise your child/children will never go to waste❤️.

Happy Mother’s Day dear Queens 👑 I salute you.

With Love,

Òyè

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