Dating, Relationships and Everything in between 🫠😭…..Part 1

Hello! Hello!! Hello!!! Happy Sunday.

Hope you have all been well ❤️ . Hello from the adulting life rollercoaster 🎢 😩.

So let's talk about dating! Lol 😂 I know some of you hate this topic but I will talk about it anyways.

I have spent a ridiculous amount of time reflecting. I reflect on everything even till date. Work, friendships, romantic relationships, financial habits. This is to take into account my wrongs firstly, evaluate boundaries and why I did not enforce or why I had none, make sure I do better by spending better or getting rid of terrible energy. Yeah it's therapy day today, take a seat.

I started dating at a young age and honestly I had no clue what it entailed. To me it was just a "he likes me I like him let's live happily ever after" LOL! Boy was I in for a ride.

Before I got to this point, I would beat myself for having dated some people in the past. That wasn't really helpful. I just took time off to know myself and be confident to remember not repeat the same mistakes.

I remember instances from past relationships and I don't know if I should cry or laugh 😂 😭😂. These were both sad and hilarious situations. A hot mess 😂

When I think about it really, I dated because everyone was doing it and well why not. I was never in love, ever. I was attracted maybe, infatuated or just plain lonely or bored. The worst one was because an Aunty asked me to 😭😂💀. She thought he was a good match, yeah a match from lucifer 😂😂. She actually typed the break up message after I complained. I copied and pasted it 😭. A story for another day😭😂😂.

No one sat me down to talk about dating so I think learning from experience was what I had to put up with. If I tell you I almost died in a past relationship, I mean that in every literal sense. A very narrow escape.

Not having proper guidance was a huge part of it and I hope the next generation of parents will do abit better by having these conversations.

I did everything I thought was the best in every single relationship but it was never enough cause I over compensated for the lack of other important factors in the relationships.

Despite all that I experienced will it stop me from dating and finding love? No F***ing way 😂😍, but will I put up with madness to be in a relationship? No f***king way. I love the idea of companionship and In my books it's beautiful and amazing. No stress, no unnecessary pain or unhealthy compromise.

I absolutely also appreciate those who have met their partners and have not needed to kiss billions of frogs to find the one. Absolutely glad for y'all cause the demons out here 😂 omg!

So what are the lessons I learnt?

Fristly......

To be continued....... Next post up on Tomorrow evening, Monday ❤️ I promise I won't be late 😂.

Enjoy the rest of your Sunday

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With Love,

Òyètola